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Choosing Love: When the Family You Create Becomes Home

  They say blood is thicker than water. That no bond is deeper than the one we're born into. And yet, for many of us—for the quiet warriors who’ve built lives on healing and choice rather than tradition and inheritance—this phrase lands differently. Because sometimes, the most sacred family is not the one that raised us. It’s the one we nurture, day after day, in the small acts of love, commitment, and resilience. It’s the people who walk with us by choice, not by obligation. It’s the family we create. Born into Chaos, Built in Grace Some of us come from families with loud voices and louder expectations. From homes filled with unspoken rules, guilt-tripped traditions, and emotional debts no one remembers incurring. Maybe there was neglect. Maybe there was chaos. Maybe there was love, but the kind that came with strings attached and approval rationed like sugar in wartime. In those early years, we learn survival. We bend ourselves into shapes we think might earn us affection. We sta...
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The Sound of Quiet Strength: A Mother's Journey Through Distance and Devotion

The hardest part of my day isn’t the nine hours I spend at the office or the two hours of relentless commute through honking traffic and crowded buses. It’s the moment I quietly close the door behind me each morning, leaving my five-year-old still curled beneath his blanket—blinking sleep from his eyes—as I whisper promises that we’ll do something fun when I return. That goodbye is a silent war between duty and heartbreak. I’m not just a working mom. I’m a single mom, at least in practice. My partner lives halfway across the world, locked into a different time zone and his own loop of responsibilities. We talk when we can—when clocks align and exhaustion doesn’t swallow us whole. But even then, those moments feel like postcards from another life. Back home, life never slows. The sink fills. The laundry piles. Homework demands help. Lunchboxes need packing. And somehow, I'm expected to smile through it all like I’ve got this. But the truth? Some days, I don’t. There’s guilt—layered ...

The Cheapskate Paradox: Hire Someone for ¼ the Salary and Expect Undying Loyalty… What Could Go Wrong?

If you’ve ever run a business—or worked for one—you’ve probably witnessed this paradox. An employer finds an incredibly talented person, looks at the market rate for their role, and then, with a wink and a shrug, offers… oh, roughly 25% of that number. Somehow, deep down, this employer has convinced themselves, “I’ve saved a lot of money! Surely, this person will stay forever and give their absolute best every single day.” What a deal! What a bargain! What an absolute misunderstanding of how human psychology works. Let’s unpack this comic tragedy and have some fun along the way. The Bargain Bin Mindset: When You Confuse People for Clearance Items Have you ever wandered into a clearance sale? You pick up a shirt that was worth $100, and you snag it for $25. You walk out beaming like you just discovered a secret stash of designer wear. But guess what? That shirt doesn’t suddenly evolve into its original worth because you paid less. Its value doesn’t grow because you winked at the cashier...

The Crisis of Credibility: How Fake Research and Dubious PhDs Are Undermining Academia

In the hallowed halls of academia, the pursuit of truth, knowledge, and innovation has long been the cornerstone of progress. Yet, in recent years, a disturbing trend has emerged—one that threatens the very foundation of scholarly integrity. Across the globe, fake research is proliferating, and PhD degrees are being awarded not for genuine academic merit, but for prestige, profit, or political gain. This blog explores the growing crisis of academic fraud, the motivations behind it, and the urgent need for reform. The Rise of Fake Research: A Global Epidemic Academic fraud is not a new phenomenon, but its scale and sophistication have reached alarming levels. From fabricated data and plagiarized theses to ghostwritten dissertations and predatory journals, the avenues for deceit are many—and growing. One of the most high-profile cases in recent years involved evolutionary ecologist Jonathan Pruitt, whose groundbreaking research on spider behavior was later revealed to be based on falsifi...

You Can’t Expect a Fish to Climb a Tree: The Cost of Ignoring Uniqueness in People and Organizations

Introduction In a world that celebrates innovation and individuality, it’s ironic how often people are still expected to conform to rigid molds. Whether in schools, workplaces, or social settings, there's a persistent tendency to compare individuals, expecting them to behave, perform, or think like someone else. This impulsive need to fit people into predefined boxes not only stifles creativity but also leads to chronic underperformance and dissatisfaction. Albert Einstein once said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” This quote encapsulates the core issue: when we ignore individual strengths and uniqueness, we set people up for failure—and organizations for mediocrity. The Impulsiveness of Comparison Human beings are wired to compare. From childhood, we’re measured against peers—grades, sports, behavior, and later, job performance, salaries, and lifestyles. This impulsiveness to ...

Suicide or Divorce: What Hurts More? What Heals?

In the stormy sea of human relationships, when things fall apart, two thoughts often cross the mind of someone deeply hurting: Should I walk away, or should I end everything? While divorce ends a relationship, suicide ends a life. Both bring pain, both leave scars, but the nature and magnitude of their impact are vastly different. Let’s talk about it—honestly, sensitively, and bravely. The Unspoken Pain Pain wears many masks. Some smile through shattered dreams, while others isolate themselves in silence. A failing relationship, betrayal, emotional neglect, or abuse can push people to the edge of despair. At such a point, divorce may feel like defeat. Suicide, on the other hand, may feel like escape. But neither is simple, and both come with consequences—some repairable, others permanent. Divorce: The End of a Chapter, Not the Book Divorce is devastating. It shakes your self-worth, disrupts your routine, and breaks the dreams you once nurtured. It often feels like death—the death of “u...

When Love Gets Poisoned

In the early days of marriage, the bond between a husband and wife often feels unbreakable—built on shared dreams, deep affection, and the promise of standing together against the world. But what happens when the disruption doesn’t come from the outside world, but from within the family? When a husband’s love is slowly influenced—sometimes unknowingly—by his mother or siblings who constantly complain about his wife, a silent poison begins to seep into the relationship. It may begin subtly, but over time, it builds a wall so high that even sincere efforts to bridge it may fall short. The Early Days: Seeds of Influence In many families, especially in cultures with tight-knit joint family systems, the line between love, control, and interference is thin. A newlywed bride walks into a household filled with existing dynamics—mothers who have loved and raised their sons with deep care, siblings who feel protective, and a husband who is trying to balance his old world with the new. Initially,...